In the past few months, I have heard story after story from friends who were heartbroken because of their crush/significant other/love interest. I have watched as the person in their lives they thought was “the perfect one” shattered their self worth and brought them down a path of misery. And I too shared along with their sadness. I felt sad that these friends of mine didn’t see their worth and incredible value in Christ but instead chose to see their worth as “someone’s girlfriend/boyfriend.” And that just can’t be. I’ve compiled this letter based on my experiences these past few months, and I pray and hope that these words encourage and help those who need it. The message is simple: Don’t settle.
Don’t settle. You’re worth more than that. You are a child of God and you have incredible worth. You were bought at a price. The Son of God and the Creator of the universe loved you so incredibly much that He willingly died for you. Jesus loves you and calls you His own. Christ’s love for you is unconditional–it doesn’t change, no matter what you do, have done, or will do. You have value, and you have worth.
Additionally, you don’t need a relationship to validate your worth. You have value and worth without anyone else in your life. That’s important to know. Yes, relationships can be nice. But with the wrong person, they can destroy you. And that’s something to keep in mind. So be patient my dear friend, until you meet a person who treats you the amazing way you deserve to be treated. Wait for the godly person who loves Jesus more than anything. Wait for that selfless, kind, and caring person who loves and serves you as Jesus did. Wait for that person who sees your worth in Christ and seeks to treat you well in every way. Wait for that patient woman/man of God who prays for you and loves you wholeheartedly. Wait for the person with that humble servant’s heart. Wait for the person you can be entirely yourself with, knowing that you are loved for you who are. Wait for the person that makes you laugh, and just brings so much joy into your life. Wait for that person who makes you want to be a better person, and brings you closer to Christ. My dear friend, I cannot reiterate this more: Don’t settle–You’re worth so, so much more than that.
And dear friend? Please don’t listen to the voices of society that tell you that you’re nothing without a relationship status. Your relationship does not define you. Hear me loud and clear: Your relationship status does not define you. Our world will try and tell you otherwise, but it couldn’t be further from the truth. Your worth is not dependent on your relationship–it’s dependent on Jesus who never changes. So know your worth.
You, my dear friend, are God’s precious and beautiful child, and no circumstance, event, or person will change that. I want you to remember that. Nothing can change the tremendous worth you have in Jesus Christ.
Trust God’s timing, my dear friend. He who made you fearfully and wonderfully does not forsake you. Trust in His timing. Don’t settle.
Focus on Jesus. Focus on Jesus and wait on His timing. Focus on your relationship with your Heavenly Father first because my friend, that’s the most important thing in your life. Your walk with Christ must always be your first priority. So focus on Jesus, know your worth, and wait on what Jesus has in store and in plan for you.
Love your friend,